How To Start Conversation With A Girl Over Text On Tinder

For men, using Tinder is not a very complicated process, unlike women who pay keen attention to every detail in the man’s bio and then make their choice after some really deep thinking, for us men, we just keep swiping right until we finally find a match.

While the odds of getting matched with someone is a rare phenomenon for men, the chances of actually convincing the girl to go out on a date with you are even fewer.

Because even though we finally get the match we are soon faced with the dilemma of how to initiate a conversation with the girl!

Now, why is that so? You see, women have a plethora of men to choose from in their Tinder profiles, so even when men finally manage to get matched with a woman, the competition we face is way more.

And in order to beat the competition, we have to find unique ways to stand out from other guys so that the girl notices us before anybody else. Due to this, an average man on Tinder is always on the lookout for unique ways through which he can get the attention of the girl before others.

Now there are various ways through which a man can get the girl’s attention. You can always start the conversation with a light-hearted question, go for the classic funny pick-up line, start the conversation with a flirty yet witty compliment.

The trick is in finding the right message that both reflects your personality accurately while also appealing to the girl in the correct way.

Now if you’re looking for the perfect conversation starters without thinking too hard about it, here’s a list of some great Tinder first messaging strategies that you can try out.


Strategy #1: Compliment And Question:

Each Tinder profile has a list of various photos of the girl be it a picture under the setting sun, a photo from a hike, a random aesthetically pleasing scenery, a party, a Halloween cosplay, or just a random funny photo or a meme.

All these scenarios are great as they have something or the other that you can comment about which can be great conversation starters.

Start off by simply commenting something really nice and casual about the photo and follow-through by asking a question regarding it.

For Example:

“Just love your hiking photo! Where was it taken exactly!?”

“Now that’s a great sunset shot! Must’ve been an amazing day, right?”

“Hey, that’s a great cat costume! Where’d you get it from!?”

“That’s such a cute puppy! Is he/she yours?”

“Noticed you were holding a guitar in one of your photos, how long have you been playing exactly?”

What’s great about these messages is that not only do they compliment the other person like talks about, but they end with an interesting question which she would be intrigued to reply to, hence a great way to start a conversation.


Strategy #2 Casually Flirty:

Tinder is probably one of the few platforms where it’s completely acceptable to get flirty every once in a while. But you have to keep in mind that you don’t get carried away with it and end up saying something offensive instead.

While some girls are fine with being flirty others might not feel that way, a great way to tell is to read her profile. If her profile contains flirtatious or sexually charged elements only then shall you proceed with this strategy? The key is to give them a little tease and leave them expecting more from you.

Seems too complicated? Don’t worry, here are some great examples:

“Cute smile, what makes it come out the most?”

“Wow, you look like you really know how to have a good time! Have you had any adventures lately?”

“I was really looking forward to getting to match with you, looks like you enjoy a lot of things I do”

“Love your profile pic, looks like you know what you’re about”

“Oh hello! Nice meeting you here, what a pleasant coincidence”

As you can see these messages are rather pushy so please make sure that the girl you’re approaching is completely fine with it.


Strategy #3 A Random Question Followed By A Comment:

This strategy works well when the girl you’re about to text has a funny photo or a random edgy meme, these signs indicate that the girl has a great sense of humor. Only in such rare circumstances, a more goofy, silly approach can work very effectively.

For example:

“What’s your favorite Kevin Hart movie?”

“I’m asking around: Where do you think I can get Avocado in town?”

“So, I just finished watching Endgame and I really don’t get it. I mean, all that for a few stones!?”

“I love songs with some badly played flute tunes. Know any good ones?”


 Strategy #4 “A Casual Greeting Followed By A Question”:

This strategy works in case the profile that you matched with is good but does not really contain enough content to initiate a conversation. These messages are safe and simple and will guarantee a good conversation.

For example:

“Hey there! How are things going with you today?”

“Hey, how’s your day going so far?”

“Hello, so how’s the weather treating you today?”

“Hey, how’s everything? Are you up to something fun this weekend!?”


Summing Up

Starting a conversation can be tricky at first but once you get used to it, it gets extremely easy. The key is to not be nervous, don’t try too hard, and be as efficient as you can.

There are always chances that some women don’t respond to you at all, but don’t be disheartened, learn from your mistakes and try better next time.

It’s not you, it’s just the way the app works.

So don’t give up, put yourself out there, give your hundred percent. If some strategies don’t work, shake things up a bit, try different approaches. Never get fixated on just one way. Concentrate on yourself, and try to make things better for yourself.

I hope this article was helpful, I wish you the best of luck.